Author: Vrush Dholakia

Better be at Your Best

| Vrush Dholakia

Ever wondered what is so great about valentines day! Why couldn’t one celebrate every day as valentines day ? 🤔Would it pinch their pockets or would it decrease the image of having a special day with your loved ones or am i missing out on some other points to add here ? 🤔

Well I never really celebrated Valentines day maybe because i never had a boyfriend who lasted till then or maybe because i never really believed in the concept of V-day.🤕 Until one day i realized that no matter how much i try to avoid this topic, i DO love this concept, the only difference is i could never really show my love towards it because i chase men away faster than Hansel chased witches. 😔

So V-day is all about love and desserts.💗 What more could a woman ask for. In my opinion this is the best thing that could happen to me, although it seems like it might never happen. 😫

My search to look for a date on V-day started as i too wanted to experience the feeling of being loved on that day. And i did find a man who seemed to match my taste.😍 He was so charming, so delightful and just amazing. The only problem was that i had forgotten that people can be different over text and very different in person.

So the day arrived when we decided to meet up. He picked me up and then we went for a drive. The drive lasted for about 4-5 minutes. So before i tell you what happens next, i would love to relate this incident to something that everyone would have experienced. When you go to purchase a cake, human tendency would be to make sure it looks good and then tastes good as well. Once in a blue moon you would face a situation where the cake looks amazing and the taste of it, Well not so much !🤢 That’s when you realize that you should have picked the cake which looked decent but tasted like heaven. 💯If you still could not relate to it then i shall tell you, i was talking about everyone’s favorite Black Forest cake. 🎂

Based on my previous experience, i was expecting this one to be equally bad or worse. When he stopped the car i thought he would just be like the first cake that i had mentioned, amazing from the outside but not so much on the inside. I thought he would try to make a move or do something that would make me uncomfortable.😧 To my disbelief, he was a perfect gentleman. He knew that i could not drive and offered to teach me and not just that, he even brought me those heart shaped balloons and chocolates as well.

The lesson that i learnt from this date was that you should never let your past experiences affect you, specially not the ones that would create a negative image about someone else in your mind. You should always meet and greet them with an open mind and open arms. 🤗

Cost of Being Single

| Vrush Dholakia

Ever wondered what the life of alpha would be without it’s beta or the life of X would be without Y or the life of a King would be without his Queen. Calling out these names out loud without the subsequent other sound incomplete. It is not the name we would like to like to hear. 🙉

The same way i thought my life would be incomplete without my life partner.👫 Until one day he decided to get up and leave🏃. I was sad and lonely. I felt like a scoop of vanilla ice-cream 🍨without the added chocolate syrup or the sprinkles. I thought my life would become like the plain old ice cream, sad and depressing. I would try to read a book just to get lost in thoughts, but i already had so many thoughts🗨️ in my head that i could not even start with the book. I was binge watching all the V-day movies and all the Christmas movies where everyone and everything would end with happily ever after. I was hopeful that the same would happen to me.

The only thing i was certain about at that time was that i was alone. I did not know what to do about it. After spending months trying to feel sorry for myself and eating unnecessary tubs of ice cream🍧🍧🍧, i realized that i have not done anything productive and i have just gained one thing – those extra 8 pounds of weight and i did not need that at all✖️. What i needed was some closure. Not with the man that left me but with myself. I needed to know why i decided to waste my time crying and eating rather than working and working out🏋️.

In this process of self realization, i came across the fact that maybe vanilla ice cream in itself is not so bad after all. It can make any brownie taste better. And sometimes all you need is a little bit of vanilla to endure the pain of that old aching tooth. Sometimes Vanilla Ice cream is All You Need. Sometimes the cost of being single is way better than the cost of being in a relationship.💃

A Pinch of Sugar

| Vrush Dholakia

You get the worlds best coffee at Starbucks or maybe a barista or probably at ccd🍵. Ever wondered where to find the worlds best men !! maybe tinder or according to Priyanka Chopra at Bumble (who by the way found her ideal match through Instagram) or Aisle app for that matter. So where to find these idealistic , pati parmeshwar type men🤔.

I personally thought that some man would approach me at a cafe while ill be reading a book📓 with some fancy title and sipping onto my fifth cup of coffee who’s name wouldn’t be able to pronounce, but Alas ! that never happened and that too for obvious reasons: i never really went to a cafe to read a book and i have definitely never sipped five cups of coffee at once. Oh! the sugar rush that i would’ve gotten and on top of that i would suddenly turn into the superhero character of The Flash i.e; full of unwanted energy.👀

Have you ever gone to a cafe and ordered an espresso shot thinking that it would seem fancy to the person sitting in front of you and they would think highly of you since you’ve ordered a coffee which is practically healthy for you. Ans then suffered the entire 120 minutes 🕣 of trying to finish that sour liquid while trying to hold onto that fake smile☺️ on your face just like an air-hostess would.

Similarly have you ever swiped right to a man on tinder or any other dating app who seems like a fitness lover🏋️, chivalrous, and “mummy ke paav chunne walla” type man👫 but turns out to be quite the opposite. One day i swiped right to a man, lets call him Mr. X. So when i met Mr.X i was so taken by his personality and his muscles (rather i had already started drooling, and trust me it wasn’t because i was hungry)💯, little did i know that when he would open his mouth it will all be a waste. It only took me 10 mins to realize that this man was full of bull crap(trying to be very decent here). When he started talking, it was only about how women try to get in his👖 pants🙊 at the gym or how much he spends on his protein shake or the contacts he has got. I don’t think he realized that to impress a women you don’t a big pile of junk in your pockets💰 ( pun intended) but a mind that actually works.

With this “DATE” i learnt one thing, “Just because it looks good on the outside that doesn’t mean it has to be good on the inside”. I now started recollecting what i was taught in school “do not judge a book by its cover”. Just like the espresso shot, i would rather be very happy with just a plain old latte with some extra pinch of sugar or rather i would add a pinch of sugar to my espresso shot. Blimey!