So what is the craziest thing you have done after a breakup ? 🤔Maybe eat a tub full of ice-cream🍧 or dive into some rom-com movies or just go on a solo trip somewhere or catch up with your friends 👫or indulge in a rebound. So I would not call it crazy but I have done something remotely annoying, I indulged in self-pity.🙊 And this is the worst kind of pity. It is easy to feel bad for someone else but if the person you are feeling pity for is yourself,well that is really hard. Self pity is not hard but accepting that you have already indulged in self-pity is extremely difficult. 😭

So what do you do when you have realized that ? So what I thought I could do is adopt a cute little puppy🐶 just to have a buddy, but my mother is terrified of dogs, so I had to scrap that idea. Now I had to think of some other alternative. I thought that I could read a book📓 and that would help me to understand what my next step should be. Alas! That confused me further more. Tired of my brains I went to the best advisor, “MY MOTHER”👩. She told me the only way to stop all the unnecessary self-pity was to start loving yourself💃😍. Yes,the exact opposite word of self-pity was the answer to all my problems, “SELF-LOVE”. 😍

So I joined the gym🏋️ and that is when I realized that not only did I love myself and my curves but also respected myself. The only problem was that I let a man define my behavior.🙅 This is a universal problem. We women let men decide for us, the way we feel about ourselves, the way we dress, the way we eat, what we eat, etc. What I find difficult to understand is, Why do we allow that?🤷 It’s not the man’s fault entirely. Nobody would do something to you, if you don’t allow it. If you tolerate the ill things happening to you only then will the person continue doing so. So technically it is your fault.🤦 You allowed this. 🙍

I decided to take a good hard look in the mirror and finally decided that I would not allow anyone to demean me. I would not allow anyone to tell me that I am not enough. “ENOUGH! I CHOSE ME NOW “🙏 . These were not just words for me, it portraits how I feel about myself.

My mother was reading out all the morning quotes that people send in the morning. You know all the good morning messages 💌sent by your entire family which fills up the memory of the SD card,💬🗯️💨 she was reading that and one of them read something like this “IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO, BUT IT IS ALSO FINE TO DANCE ON YOUR OWN”.💦

So to all you readers Self-pity is like the typical diet food,🤢 looks good on the outside but is completely bland when you taste it, you need to add something to spice it up just like you need to add something to spice up your life. I would go ahead and quote another one from FRIENDS (TV Show) (read my previous article to know what I am talking about),”IT IS A MOO POINT”.🤔 It is like a cow’s opinion, just doesn’t matter. Self- pity just doesn’t matter.🌞💯