Have you ever eaten something that you hate but still had to swallow it because someone made it with so much love ? I am someone who hates Sushi and when I had first gone to eat it, I was so excited. To me, the word Sushi sounds very fancy. It sounds like a type of dish a typical Gujarati girl like me would fancy, but from far. Being a die hard Indian Gujarati woman, my foodporn is “Daldhokhli” or “Khamand Dhokla” or “Jalebi fafda” or “Surati Undhyu”. These are the kind of dishes that would be my Sushi or Quesadilla.

Similarly, have you ever been with somebody who seem fancy or looks good but is not so much fun or fancy when you actually spend time with them. Now this may not be because they are arrogant or some ego maniacs. It can be simply because you two do not connect or because you are two completely different people or you two are just too similar. It can be anything.

Maybe the guy is Mr.Perfect but you just do not connect with him or just consider him as your friend. Maybe you two do not have that spark or maybe you are just meant to be best friends. The question is “How does one deal with such a situation?” How do you make sure that you have that person in your life but not hurt their feelings or yours? HOW DO YOU COMPLICATE AN UNCOMPLICATED SITUATION LIKE THIS ONE ?

For someone like me, relationships matter a lot. That relationship could be with your spouse, parents, fiancé, friends, anyone related by blood or not. I, personally dislike the break up phase in any relationship so I stay away from such situations. But when it is not meant to be then forcing or trying to make it work is definitely not in my nature. I would rather NOT FAKE A RELATIONSHIP just to make sure that it SURVIVES. I would rather BREAK FREE from such a vicious connection.

This is what dating applications do. You meet a lot of people who you might like or who would be your Mr. Perfect but you do not have that spark with or do not connect with. What can one do next ? You can keep meeting new people until you finally meet someone , your Mr. NOT SO PERFECT or just realise that Mr. Actually Perfect will just come along.

YOU DON’T NOT HAVE TO LOOK SO HARD. All you have to do is accept what you have now and be hopeful for tomorrow because “HOPE HAS A LOT OF POWER!”